Deciding What Path is Best: Surrogacy vs. Adoption
Nov 25, 2019
When you are thinking about growing your family, there are several options available. For instance, prospective parents who struggle with infertility often want to know the comparison between surrogacy vs. adoption. Each selection has its own amount of risks and benefits, and depends on what kind of family you’re hoping to have. It’s important to learn all you can about the options out there, and weigh both the good and bad, so you can fully understand everything they entail. This, in turn, will help you determine which option is best for you and your family.
At Surrogacy Choices, we understand the struggle to decide, and we hope to put your mind at ease. To begin, there is no right way to grow your family. Just what best fits you and the family you hope to have. While gestational surrogacy is growing in popularity, we want to give you a balanced look at both options. Following are the three most basic areas where the surrogacy and adoption choices share similarities and differences.
Envision the family you want. Hold that picture in your mind. Now, let’s break it down together. Are your children biologically related to you? Or is there a mix? This is an important question that helps you distinguish between surrogacy vs. adoption.
If you want children who share a genetic connection to you, gestational surrogacy would be the road you’d want to pursue. Why is this? With gestational surrogacy, you can use your own sperm and eggs to create an embryo. The embryo is then fertilized in a lab, and implanted into your chosen gestational carrier via IVF. For same sex couples or single parents, sperm and egg donors are often used.
With adoption, the baby is genetically related to his or her birth mother.
When comparing surrogacy vs. adoption finances and expenditures, surrogacy is definitely the more expensive choice. Intended parents are expected to pay all medical expenses, which includes but is not limited to: the IVF procedure for your gestational carrier, doctor appointments, and the overall cost for the pregnancy and delivery. On top of that, there are legal fees, and the out of pocket expenses of the carrier herself. Individual circumstances are also taken into account. For an estimated quote, be sure to contact our team at Surrogacy Choices.
That said, this can make adoption look much more affordable. In an adoption journey, prospective adoptive parents cover the cost of: the home study, and any and all birth mother expenses, but have the option of the Adoption Tax Credit. Gestational surrogacy only offers a potential tax deduction for the IVF process.
Planning and Control
Perhaps one of the biggest differences between surrogacy vs. adoption is the amount of control you have as a prospective parent. With adoption, the birth mother chooses to make a plan for her baby when she’s already pregnant. So, that part is never planned. When it comes to surrogacy, however, the pregnancy is always planned. Intended parents also tend to have more involvement with the pregnancy journey in gestational surrogacy than prospective adoptive parents do with adoption.
In adoption, the birth mother selects which adoptive family she’d like to adopt her baby, but is still allowed to change her mind at any point during the process, state law depending. This poses a greater risk to prospective adoptive parents, and adds a sense of uncertainty and stress to the adoption journey.
With surrogacy, though, as aforementioned, intended parents are involved in all aspects of the pregnancy. As an added benefit, there is no doubt or question who the baby will go home with post delivery. The gestational carrier knows from day one that she is helping the intended parents grow their family, and has no intention of keeping the baby.
Surrogacy vs. Adoption
Each option has their own pros and cons, and it takes careful consideration to determine which option is best for you and your family. Remember that, again, there is no right way for you to have a family. Parenthood is available with either of these journeys. It all comes down to what you are looking for in a family, and which path fits those needs.
Surrogacy Choices, LLC
Surrogacy Choices, LLC is a full-service agency that offers Gestational Surrogacy to Intended Parents. Our programs, sponsored through the American Academy of Assisted Reproductive Technology Attorneys, provide you with a comprehensive guide of the process. We are committed to the highest standards of ethics and service, and are dedicated to helping hopeful prospective parents through surrogacy regardless of their race, age, gender, marital status, or sexual orientation. In everything we do, we want to ensure that you have the healthiest and most positive experience possible.
We have offices in Nevada, Texas and Kansas.